This week I did not one, but two things outside of my comfort zone. I don't mind leaving my comfort zone every now and then, I get a bit restless and curious and kind of enjoy the danger of stepping out in to the unknown. It can be exhilarating and I'm a firm believer that it's good to step outside of your comfort bubble every now and then. But then there's the other part of me, the part that does a little wee of fear at the thought of venturing out there and doing something out of the ordinary. Truth be told, it's really no big deal leaving your comfort zone...once you've done it. Hindsight is a beautiful thing, right?
Earlier this week I had lunch on my own, in a cafe. To tell you the truth, I've never been good with my own company. I get bored so easily, especially when there's no one to have a natter with. I put it down to the fact that I love being around people - I'm a slightly unconventional introvert in that sense. I might not be the loudest or the most talkative (well...my family and friends will beg to differ!) but I love being around people, hearing their stories and having a chat. So for me, being on my own usually sucks. Plus, I hate the quiet and I can only sing for so long (without the neighbours complaining...I guess they're not Spice Girls fans).
So I stepped out of my comfort zone and took myself to lunch. I know it's not unusual to see people on their own and this probably isn't a big thing, but there's something about being on my own in a restaurant full of people that makes me feel slightly uncomfortable. Naturally, I turned to my phone for comfort and I soon realised that actually...this is alright. No one is staring at me, everyone is getting on with their own lunches and I actually felt like a proper independent woman (where's that sassy emoji?) I put my phone down and enjoyed my bloody glorious ploughman's salad (hello plate of meat and cheese), spending my time people watching and planning my weekend ahead. It was empowering, refreshing and one hell of a confidence boost. I guess I've been so used to having people around me all the time that I forgot what it was like to spend time with just little old me. And you know what? It's not so bad. If you ignore the fact that my brain chatters away to itself at 100mph.
|Um, excuse the creases! I did iron it...I promise...|
I'm the kind of girl who likes to have plans - I'm not too good at sitting still. I have this constant twitch like I need to be doing something or seeing someone, so I like my weekends to be full, but kind of chilled at the same time (it's a fine one to balance, I know). So when I saw Hannah's tweet about meeting up with fellow bloggers and local ladies, I jumped right in there. I love living in Suffolk/Essex but I don't really know many people round these parts, and I can't tell you how lovely it was to meet with ten other ladies to chat about, well, anything and everything. Obviously it helped that cocktails were flowing and snacks were involved! It was lovely to meet everyone and fab to have so many creative ladies all in one place. We talked about our work, our blogs, our loves and life - and not forgetting, our recent Netflix binges. It was a gathering of complete strangers and it was blummin' marvellous, even if I had to dash off after a few hours. More times like this please!
I guess the moral of this unexpectedly lengthy post today is a) when step outside your comfort zone, wonderful things can really happen b) it's nowhere near as scary as you think it'll be and c) we need more of these positive vibes in life - let's be supportive ladies and gents. Twitter/the blogosphere has been a bit of a sad, negative place over the last few weeks so it was lovely to spend time with people who just wanted a good time! So there you go, some positive, motivational vibes from me to you. Just in time for going back to work after a long weekend!